Do you have trust issues? Many people do. We each could probably make a long list of reasons we have issues trusting others, whether the ‘other’ is a person or a business. In the end, if you analyzed your reasons for a lack of trust, more than likely it will come to having been let down by someone when something important was transpiring.
Over the past few weeks, I have been talking on the phone, corresponding over email, and meeting students and parents face to face, who are not trusting the information I am giving them. I understand times of hesitation, and I understand the need to ask a lot of questions, but I do not understand resistance to well designed programs which have been thoroughly explained on how they benefit a first year student’s well-being. The case which keeps coming up for me is, the handful of students who want to be part of our Honors program, but do not want to live in the Honors residence hall (dorm).
All these resistant students are: 1) going to live on campus, 2) with a bunch of strangers, 3) in a building they have never lived in before, 4) and most of them, with a person they have never met in person! Why do they not want to live in the resident hall designated to the Honors program? I repeatedly explain they are not competing against their roommate, the person next door, or the person upstairs – college is not high school, there is NOT one best student. As a high achieving student, why not live with other academically minded, motivated students? Honors students are social; I hear they even party! They ARE regular first year students! They are you, you ARE one of them.
I think it may be challenging for some students to realize that college is a new identity; I understand this. In asking these students to trust me, I try to put into perspective the reality that they are leaving (the) high school (drama) behind and get to be the person they want to be. However, coming to a very large university is a bit scary, so why not start it by living in a supportive community?! I know I have an adult perspective on this – an adult perspective having worked with students for more than 15 years. Please, please, trust me!
Thank you, to the 160+ students, who have gladly and enthusiastically, set their housing preference to live in the Honors residence hall! And for the handful who have been resistant, thank you for another blog topic!